LaRubia
16.05.2010, 23:19
Das ist ein Teil eines Textes den ich im Playerettes Bereich auf fastseduction.com gefunden habe (quasi die amerikanischen Cats). Für manchen mag das ja alles alter Tobak sein, aber bei mir hats einen ganz großen Aha effekt ausgelöst. Die zweite Variante habe ich sogar unterbewusst gefieldtestet und hatte damit durchschlagenden Erfolg. Jetzt ist meine Frage: Was haben die anderen Cats da für Erfahrungen gesammelt? Lässt sich das so unterschreiben? Sind diese beiden Typen vlt "Grundtypen"?
(PS.: Wenn jemand eine deutsche Übersetzung möchte, kann ich mich da auch noch dran setzten- der ganze Thread im Ami forum ist absolut lesenswert!)
3) Appropriate Sexual Tension Management(credits to Hitori)
If there is any important personality factor you should be able to gauge about a dude to effectively game him, I would say the ABSOLUTE TOP OF THE LIST is what I think of as his "tension orientation."
If you take relationships and sex down to their simplest level, they really just have two ingredients:
1. Tension
2. Release
The satisfaction people get from sex, beyond the simple physical pleasure of it, comes from releasing tension.
Many guys, most typically guys who don't feel like they can get sex whenever they want... Are used to sexual tension without sexual release. If they think they can release sexual tension with you (read: get laid/get affirmation that you WILL or WOULD sleep with them/get validation that they are desirable), they will be interested in you because you can give them release from tension.
There is another category of guys - though this is more of a sliding scale than a binary thing - who are used to getting laid whenever they want. Often without realizing it, these guys will get progressively less thrilled with getting laid as time goes on because the certainty deprives them of tension. These guys will be interested in you if you can give them tension to release.
This is not the same thing as refusing sex - this is all about building sexual charge. In my experience, this is the most common mistake that girls make when dealing with player dudes: they want the dude, so they throw sex at him - which would work with guys who are release-driven, which is most guys. But what you really want to build with these guys is sexual charge! Tension!
It's worth keeping in mind that within this second orientation, guys have a tendency to become... Specialists. They may seek tension in the form of exploring kinkier and kinkier acts with the same woman, of seeking faster and more exhibitionist hookups, or simply of looking for sex with more and more or hotter and hotter women. Some of these will be compatible with your goals and others will not; don't expect him to change for you.
(PS.: Wenn jemand eine deutsche Übersetzung möchte, kann ich mich da auch noch dran setzten- der ganze Thread im Ami forum ist absolut lesenswert!)
3) Appropriate Sexual Tension Management(credits to Hitori)
If there is any important personality factor you should be able to gauge about a dude to effectively game him, I would say the ABSOLUTE TOP OF THE LIST is what I think of as his "tension orientation."
If you take relationships and sex down to their simplest level, they really just have two ingredients:
1. Tension
2. Release
The satisfaction people get from sex, beyond the simple physical pleasure of it, comes from releasing tension.
Many guys, most typically guys who don't feel like they can get sex whenever they want... Are used to sexual tension without sexual release. If they think they can release sexual tension with you (read: get laid/get affirmation that you WILL or WOULD sleep with them/get validation that they are desirable), they will be interested in you because you can give them release from tension.
There is another category of guys - though this is more of a sliding scale than a binary thing - who are used to getting laid whenever they want. Often without realizing it, these guys will get progressively less thrilled with getting laid as time goes on because the certainty deprives them of tension. These guys will be interested in you if you can give them tension to release.
This is not the same thing as refusing sex - this is all about building sexual charge. In my experience, this is the most common mistake that girls make when dealing with player dudes: they want the dude, so they throw sex at him - which would work with guys who are release-driven, which is most guys. But what you really want to build with these guys is sexual charge! Tension!
It's worth keeping in mind that within this second orientation, guys have a tendency to become... Specialists. They may seek tension in the form of exploring kinkier and kinkier acts with the same woman, of seeking faster and more exhibitionist hookups, or simply of looking for sex with more and more or hotter and hotter women. Some of these will be compatible with your goals and others will not; don't expect him to change for you.